ambition

AMBITION

       Before I could really start to write about ambition, I had to ask myself what ambition really was. What causes people to be ambitious, and what are the advantages and disadvantages of being an ambitious person? At first, I must admit it was fairly difficult to comprehend. But I found it to all come together when I related it to another kind of person or group of people – dreamers. 

           Ambition is the desire to achieve something, or to succeed, accompanied with motivation, determination and an internal drive.
Ambition describes those that achieve success based on their inner desire to do so and their belief in themselves. Ambition in itself may not be a key to success. Successful, ambitious people need both energy and goals to succeed. Someone with plenty of energy but no goals may find themselves pursuing one opportunity after another without success, wondering what it is that they are wanting out of life.

     When I think of ambitious people I think of dreamers. These are the people with hopes of one day conquering and ruling the world single handedly, and having everything work out just the way they want it to. I also feel that an ambitious person is a confident one. 
And in order to dream as large, one would have to be ambitious. I then asked my mother a similar question, but found a great difference not only in the period of time it took for a response, but in the answer as well. Her answer was more realistic, almost as if she knew her limitations and her options, and her dreams had both narrowed. This helped me to understand that high ambitions lie in the youth of the world. And although adults may be ambitious at heart, their minds help them decide what is and is not realistic.

Through my experiences in dealing with ambitious people (and being one myself) I found that ambition may cause certain amounts of unnecessary stress. It may even cause you to forget about the things that hold great importance in your life. An ambitious person tends to only see his or her objective, and anything that gets in the way of progress is either ignores or looked at as an advantage. This in return may cause people to dislike you, not because they want to see you fail, but instead want you to realize that they have to have ambitions and dreams. And from time to time, they desire some kind of acknowledgement for their goals that they hope to one day accomplish
   

Someone with goals but no energy may find themselves wanting to achieve success, but too complacent to do the work to go about pursuing their goals.

They might also start projects but quit when the work becomes too hard or too much work.Ambition is not a requirement for success for many people. Many unambitious people would describe success as accepting what life has to offer and making the most of it. However, ambition is a necessity for those who want to achieve a specific goal, such as becoming a CEO, actor, or billionaire. 

Every person has life ambitions in their life. Some want to be a rich. Some wish to be a leader. Some desire to be great scientists. There are others who are mainly like adventure. Our young boys and girls like to go to foreign countries. Their aim of life is to earn lot of money within a short period.

My ambition of life is neither wealth nor social status. My ambition is simple. It is help to poor people and serves my life where I need. My heart is always full of sympathy and weeps for homeless people. I love and do my best to help those who need my help. All heroes in the world who help and serve their whole life for poor people are respectable for me. Their life is a symbol for those people who would like to serve their life for humanity. Service for needy people is my motto.

communication

Communication

 a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior.

Whether we realise it or not, we are communicating ALL the time. And, given the number of platforms and devices that we use as we live out our daily lives, and the multi-tasking our routines call for, most of us are pretty good communicators.

Examples of Communications Skills

Does your typical day look like this?

All these are examples of communication skills.

• You share quality time, chit-chatting with your family before you leave for work;
• you use an app to call a cab as your car is in the garage;
• catch the news on your tablet in the cab while also sneaking a peek at your Facebook timeline;
• then you attend a slew of meetings at the office;
• reply to a flood of emails;
• video-conference with clients on another continent;
• let your smart phone order you lunch;
• spit some unprintable words at the moody coffee-maker in the pantry;
• and finally share some much-needed banter with your colleagues as you car-pool on the way back home.

What Is Business Communication? Why is it important?

Communication is the lifeblood of any organisation. Whether it’s issuing simple instructions at work, sorting out a tricky situation with a subordinate, lifting flagging morale, working out a better way to meet productivity targets, briefing your team on customer feedback after a product launch, or as CEO, getting your employees to buy into your company’s vision – communication is the pivot of any business venture, from start-up to global corporation.

 

Business Communication vs General / Social Communication Differences

Business communication differs greatly from regular communication. It refers to communication that takes place in a work environment, and is meant to achieve the common goal of getting the job done and doing it effectively.

Business communication could be internal, that is, within the organisation between colleagues or between departments; or it could be external, for instance, a brand-building campaign for a company to shore up its image.

It could also include communicating with vendors, partner organisations, prospective clients or just the public at large.

The number of platforms that we use for business communication has exploded in recent times. Whereas telephone and email were once the most oft-used mediums, now online meetings, videoconferencing, teleconferencing, voice messages and even web chat and instant messaging are par for the course.

When it comes to a company targeting a large audience, videos, power point presentations (PPT), blogs, apps, social media and television come to the rescue. And, with all these platforms available at the tap of the finger, let’s not forget where it all began – good, old-fashioned face-to-face communication!

 Types of business communication skills

Speaking

Speaking or verbal communication is perhaps the most frequently used way to get a message across at the workplace, and it includes meetings, presentations, workshops, in-person interviews, and telephonic and video conferencing.

It’s direct, it costs nothing, and it’s instant. It is also effective because it allows the receiver to pick up on critical non-verbal cues such as facial expressions, tone, pitch and body language.

This communication skill is best used in situations where establishing a personal connection is important, such as conflict-resolution scenarios, team-building exercises and while selling a product. But as more and more businesses go global and they work with partners, clients and customers all over the world, verbal communication is losing out to digital platforms.

Writing

This is another powerful business communication skill, which embraces the gamut from email, internal business memos, formal letters, bulletin boards, posters, flyers, PPTs etc.

Effective writing requires careful choice of words that send out a message cogently and accurately.

This form of communication is reliable; it can be used to reach multiple individuals all at once; and is the best way to convey technical information.

Reading

This is tough to master simply because more and more people, especially young people, are spending less and less time reading.

Many limit their ‘reading’ to social networking sites and instant messaging, while reading only when absolutely necessary.

Listening

Perhaps the most difficult business communication skill to practice, listening implies that you not only hear what someone is saying but also understand the content, decode all the non-verbal signals and filter the message without bias or prejudice.

Effective listening is a winning tool in every manager’s toolkit, for it implies the ability to put oneself in someone else’s shoes, something every employee craves – an empathetic ear.

creativity

Creativity

I believed I was un-creative. What else can be creativity besides dancing and painting and how to find out what my creativity is?

"Creativity has nothing to do with any activity in particular – with painting, poetry, dancing, singing. It has nothing to do with anything in particular.

"Anything can be creative – you bring that quality to the activity. Activity itself is neither creative nor uncreative. You can paint in an uncreative way. You can sing in an uncreative way. You can clean the floor in a creative way. You can cook in a creative way. 

"Creativity is the quality that you bring to the activity you are doing. It is an attitude, an inner approach – how you look at things.

"So the first thing to be remembered: don't confine creativity to anything in particular. A man is creative – and if he is creative, whatsoever he does, even if he walks, you can see in his walking there is creativity. Even if he sits silently and does nothing, even non-doing will be a creative act. Buddha sitting under the Bodhi Tree doing nothing is the greatest creator the world has ever known. Once you understand it – that it is you, the person, who is creative or uncreative – then this problem disappears. 

"Not everybody can be a painter – and there is no need also. If everybody is a painter the world will be very ugly; it will be difficult to live. And not everybody can be a dancer, and there is no need. But everybody can be creative. 

"Whatsoever you do, if you do it joyfully, if you do it lovingly, if your act of doing it is not purely economical, then it is creative. If you have something growing out of it within you, if it gives you growth, it is spiritual, it is creative, it is divine. 

"You become more divine as you become more creative. all the religions of the world have said: God is the Creator. I don't know whether He is the Creator or not, but one thing I know: the more creative you become, the more godly you become. When your creativity comes to a climax, when your whole life becomes creative, you live in God. So He must be the Creator because people who have been creative have been closest to Him. "Love what you do. Be meditative while you are doing it – whatsoever it is! irrelevant of the fact of what it is. 

"A creative act enhances the beauty of the world; it gives something to the world, it never takes anything from it. A creative person comes into the world, enhances the beauty of the world – a song here, a painting there. He makes the world dance better, enjoy better, love better, meditate better. When he leaves this world, he leaves a better world behind him. Nobody may know him; somebody may know him – that is not the point. But he leaves the world a better world, tremendously fulfilled because his life has been of some intrinsic value.

"Money, power, prestige, are uncreative; not only uncreative, but destructive activities. Beware of them! And if you beware of them you can become creative very easily. I am not saying that your creativity is going to give you power, prestige, money. No, I cannot promise you any rose-gardens. It may give you trouble. It may force you to live a poor man's life. All that I can promise you is that deep inside you will be the richest man possible; deep inside you will be fulfilled; deep inside you will be full of joy and celebration. You will be continuously receiving more and more blessings from God. Your life will be a life of benediction.

"But it is possible that outwardly you may not be famous, you may not have money, you may not succeed in the so-called world. But to succeed in this so-called world is to fail deeply, is to fail in the inside world. And what are you going to do with the whole world at your feet if you have lost your own self? What will you do if you possess the whole world and you don't possess yourself? A creative person possesses his own being; he is a master. 

self awareness

Self awareness

So What is Self-Awareness Exactly?

“when we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and compare our current behavior to our internal standards and values. We become self-conscious as objective evaluators of ourselves.”

In my view, it is important to recognize that self-awareness is not only about what we notice about ourselves but also how we notice and monitor our inner world.

The non-judgmental quality is an essential component to self-awareness. As we notice what’s happening inside us, we acknowledge and accept them as the inevitable part of being human, rather than giving ourselves a hard time about it (hint: if you have ever said to yourself “I should/shouldn’t have done it”, then you know what I mean).

Furthermore, self-awareness goes beyond merely accumulating knowledge about ourselves. It is also about paying attention to our inner state with a beginner’s mind and an open heart. Our mind is extremely skilful at storing information about how we react to a certain event to form a blueprint of our emotional life. 

Such information often ends up conditioning our mind to react in a certain way as we encounter a similar event in the future. Self-awareness allows us be conscious of these conditioning and preconceptions of the mind, which can form the foundation of freeing the mind from it.

Why Does Self-Awareness Matter?

Self-awareness is the key cornerstone to emotional intelligence. The ability to monitor our emotions and thoughts from moment to moment is key to understanding ourselves better, being at peace with who we are and proactively managing our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

     In addition, self-aware people tend to act consciously rather than react passively, to be in good psychological health and to have a positive outlook on life. They also have greater depth of life experience and are more likely to be more compassionate to themselves and others.

A number of researches have shown self-awareness as a crucial trait of successful business leaders. In a study undertaken by Green Peak Partners and Cornell University examining 72 executives at public and private companies with revenues from $50 million to $5 billion, it was found that “a high self-awareness score was the strongest predictor of overall success”

A high self-awareness score was the strongest predictor of overall success.

Why is it Not Easy to be More Self-Aware?

So if self-awareness is so important, why aren’t we more self-aware?

Well, a most obvious answer is that most of the time we are simply “not there” to observe ourselves. In other words, we are not there to pay attention to what’s going on inside or around us. almost half of the time we operate on “automatic pilot” or unconscious of what we are doing or how we feel, as our mind wanders to somewhere else other than here and now.

In addition to the constant mind-wandering, the various cognitive bias also affect our ability to have a more accurate understanding of ourselves.

For example, confirmation bias can trick us into searching for or interpreting information in a way that confirms our pre-conception of something (you know that feeling when you’ve accepted a job offer but are still looking for extra assurance that it is the perfect job for you).

Furthermore, the lack of the willingness to seek feedback could also work against us if we want to have a more holistic view of ourselves through the eyes of others.

5 Ways to Cultivate Self-Awareness

1.Create some space for yourself.            

                  When you are in a dark room without windows, it is fairly difficult to see things clearly. The space you create for yourself is that crack on the wall where you allow light to come through. Leave yourself some time and space every day – perhaps first thing in the morning or half an hour before sleep when you stay away from the digital distractions and spend some time with yourself, reading, writing, meditating, and connecting with yourself.

2.Practice mindfulness.

                 Mindfulness is the key to self-awareness, mindfulness as “paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally”. Through mindfulness practice, you will be more present with yourself so that you can “be there” to observe what’s going on inside and around you. It is not about sitting cross-legged or suppressing your thoughts. It is about paying attention to your inner state as they arise. You can practice mindfulness at any time you want, through mindful listening, mindful eating or walking.

3.Keep a journal: 

                   Writing not only helps us process our thoughts but also makes us feel connected and at peace with ourselves. Writing can also create more headspace as you let your thoughts flow out onto paper. Research shows that writing down things we are grateful for or even things we are struggling with helps increase happiness and satisfaction.  You can also use the journal to record your inner state. Try this at home –choose a half day on a weekend, pay close attention to your inner world – what you are feeling, what you are saying to yourself, and make a note of what you observe every hour. You may be surprised about what you write down!

4.Practice being a good listener.

                    Listening is not the same as hearing. Listening is about being present and paying attention to other people’s emotions, body movement and language. It is about showing empathy and understanding without constantly evaluating or judging. When you become a good listener, you will also be better at listening to your own inner voice and become the best friend of yourself.

5.Gain different perspectives: 

                    Ask for feedback. Sometimes we can be too afraid to ask what others think of us – yes sometimes the feedback may be biased or even dishonest but you will be able to differentiate them from real, genuine and balanced feedback as you learn more about yourself and others. Research has shown conducting 360 degree feedback in workplace is a useful tool to improve managers’ self-awareness. We all have blind spots, so it is helpful to gain different perspective to see a fuller picture of ourselves.

empathy

Empathy

Empathy is the experience of understanding another person's thoughts, feelings, and condition from their point of view, rather than from your own. You can imagine yourself in their place in order to understand what they are feeling or experiencing.

                   It also is the ability to feel and share another person's emotions. Some believe that empathy involves the ability to match another's emotions, while others believe that empathy involves being tenderhearted toward another person.Having empathy can include having the understanding that there are many factors that go into decision making and cognitive thought processes. Past experiences have an influence on the decision making of today. Understanding this allows a person to have empathy for individuals who sometimes make illogical decisions to a problem that most individuals would respond with an obvious response. Broken homes, childhood trauma, lack of parenting and many others factors can influence the connections in the brain which a person uses to make decisions in the future.Empathy is distinct also from pity and emotional contagion. Pity is feeling that another is in trouble and in need of help as they cannot fix their problems themselves, often described as "feeling sorry" for someone. Emotional contagion is when a person imitatively "catches" the emotions that others are showing without necessarily recognizing this is happening.

                  

             Since empathy involves understanding the emotional states of other people, the way it is characterized is derived from the way emotions themselves are characterized. If, for example, emotions are taken to be centrally characterized by bodily feelings, then grasping the bodily feelings of another will be central to empathy. On the other hand, if emotions are more centrally characterized by a combination of beliefs and desires, then grasping these beliefs and desires will be more essential to empathy. The ability to imagine oneself as another person is a sophisticated imaginative process. However, the basic capacity to recognize emotions is probably innate and may be achieved unconsciously. Yet it can be trained and achieved with various degrees of intensity or accuracy.

                  

             Empathy necessarily has a "more or less" quality. The paradigm case of an emphatic interaction, however, involves a person communicating an accurate recognition of the significance of another person's ongoing intentional actions, associated emotional states, and personal characteristics in a manner that the recognized person can tolerate. Recognition that are both accurate and tolerable are central features of empathy.

Can You Be Too Empathetic?

Unlike sympathy, which simply means feeling sadness or pity for someone who is undergoing some type of hardship, empathy promotes selfless compassion and action on behalf of another person or group of people. While this sounds like a positive, highly ethical and well-principled practice, some people believe having too much empathy can be detrimental to one's own well-being and even to the world at large. Too much empathy interferes with rational decision making, causing us to lead with our hearts rather than by our heads, losing the broader picture or long-term consequences of overly empathetic behavior.

I think we should talk more about our empathy deficit - the ability to put ourselves in someone else's shoes; to see the world through the eyes of those who are different from us - the child who's hungry, the steelworker who's been laid off, the family who lost the entire life they built together when the storm came to town. When you think like this, when you choose to broaden your ambit of concern and empathize with the plight of others, whether they are close friends or distant strangers; it becomes harder not to act; harder not to help.

LOVE

LOVE

what is love ....... a boy and  a girl  in a park sitting on a bench, very close to each other, by seeing them what do you say that, they are in love. 

is it  love...??!! of-course you can say that it's love.....But you can't say  that it is the only love. 

     a mother's love, a father's love, a sister's , a brother's, and a friend's love is also the love

                                                    and it is the actual love

Mother's love

off all the types of love, a mother's love is the strongest, and truly incomparable. it's the purest form of affection...... isn't it??  

when you are in the mother's womb, you are just in the form of blood cell's called  embryo mother starts loving you, she starts talking to you , she's been waiting for you. when you came into this world by seeing you mother's face fill's with loads of happiness, in that moment she will forget all her struggles. She's been keep loving you for entire life of her.

Father's love

a father's love starts when you came into this world, he holds your little fingers and starts teaching you how to walk, he will get tears when you start speaking your first words, he will play with you, he will fight with you, he will be there for you in everyday and night , in every situation he will give you his support and love, protects you like anything. 

Sister's and Brother's love

Those who won't tell you ever that they love's you,but loves from their bottom of the heart.

the best enemies in the home and the best protectors at out. sibling relationships can be tough sometimes but we always understand that we love our brothers and sisters. a brother or sister will plays with you, annoys you, cheat you, complaints on you, but loves you for moon and back.

"A bond between a brother and a sister sometimes tightly woven sometimes loosely held but never BROKEN"

Friend's love

The person who knows about you much more than you knows, and who cares like a mother who protects like a father who annoys like a brother and sister and who will be there for in every happiness and  as well as in hard times. Those monkeys will makes you laugh , makes you cry, makes you understand, makes you to take correct decisions . A friend is the one who can loves you like a mother father brother and sister.

               

   

Stress

stress

                         

 well, i am not that poetic but all i can say about stress is "when your mind is thinking lots of things without your permission, angry and sad for no reason"  that meant for stress.

stress is a natural physical and mental reaction to life expericers. Everyone express stress including you and me from time to time.

Anything from everyday responsibilities like work and family to serious life events such as a new diagnosis,war,or the death of a loved one can tigger stress. mmm......its not only comes  up for a very serious reason but even the dandruff on your head can easily make you feel stress, sounds silly but true.

what stress can do??????

Stress can affect your life severely and in many different ways, like stress can affect your physical and mental health. 

while if  you think that stress is something psychological, you are wrong. it has large influence on your body. First of all ,stress frequently leads to muscle tension. which leads to the annoying pains as well as headaches.

Besides the influence on the body, stress can also have an impact on your mind, like worrying. Worrying is a sped-up version of thinking in circles,where you keep getting stuck on the same subject without finding a solution. If this keeps up for a long time, this can introduce depression and burnout.

what do you have to do??????

 Identify whats causing stress,monitor your state of mind throughout the day.If you feel stressed, write down the cause, your thoughts and your mood. Once you know what's bothering you,develop a plan for addressing it.

Build strong relationships with your loved ones, Walk away when you are angry - don't be bother about others mistakes, Do meditation, Dance, Yoga. Then you can get rid of stress.